Be Prettier in Any Situation by Following the Platinum Rule
You may have been told the “golden rule” once, but it’s not always ideal for when you want to exude charisma . This is where the platinum rule comes in.
The golden rule is that you must treat others with the same respect you would like to be treated. Travis Bradburry from The Good Men Project offers the best approach when you want others to like you better:
The golden rule – treat others the way you want to be treated – has a fatal flaw: it assumes that all people want to be treated the same. He ignores the fact that people are motivated by completely different things … The Platinum Rule – Treat others the way they want to be treated – corrects this shortcoming.
You are not pandering to them or sucking up, you are simply doing an extra courtesy by reaching out to who they are as individuals. As Bradburry suggests, if someone likes public recognition, give it to them. However, if they don’t like being in the spotlight, don’t let them feel uncomfortable. You should definitely use the Golden Rule as a base no matter what, but keep the Platinum Rule in mind when you feel like someone loves being treated. They will like you much more for that.