Use the Lust Trap to Catch Your Love on Social Media
Director, producer and comedy show host Tyler Perry has never had an impact on lifestyle. He’s insanely successful – a billion dollar show business tycoon – but the public never turned to Perry for personal well-being, beauty, or anything else that could fall under the purview of the Kardashians.
Perry unwittingly changed that on Wednesday when he tweeted an inspiring selfie along with a serious post about his “midlife crisis.” Perry’s selfie pushed open the floodgates of the thirst trap. This caused a flurry of responses from people who told the tycoon that he was loved and anything but not alone, sometimes in a sultry pose for good measure.
Perry has done the world a favor, and not just because many of the replies in the thread are fun to read . This thread is a case study of the subtle art of trapping lust, which may be an underutilized asset in a social media newbie seeking love and romance. In the spirit of Tyler Perry, here are some ways to use the graceful lust trap to find out who admires you from afar.
It’s okay to be vulnerable, so go for it.
For men, this can be more difficult because generations of socially conditioned stoicism have conditioned us to be different, yet vulnerable. If you want someone to appreciate you for you, the thirst trap is a great vehicle for broadcasting yourself, spiritual bruises, and everything else to the outside world.
Of course, don’t use this as a cry for help, because the thirst traps are not in that (they keep your audience thirsty). But don’t shy away from letting your audience know that you are struggling too if you think it’s appropriate. Take that from Tyler Perry: he is immensely successful and adored in Hollywood, but still at a crossroads in life. His honesty has sparked an avalanche of reactions that you probably can’t match, but it’s possible that your emotional honesty will be appreciated.
There is nothing wrong with using a prop
This is the same trick that gets strangers to talk to you on the street if you are into this kind of thing: if you are holding props – say, a crystal ball or a magic staff – people are not necessarily more likely to talk to you, but they will certainly be. think about you.
I’m not saying cosplaying and walking around pretending to be Gandalf, but don’t shy away from being creative with these lust traps. You lay them for a reason – to get the attention (and affection) of anyone with a pair of eyes (unless you’re specifically targeting that special person). However, invite everyone who falls into this trap of thirst to enter your world. Props can no doubt help in this endeavor, so get creative first of all. Chances are, you won’t be as inspiring as Tyler Perry’s selfies if you just take a casual post-workout shot in front of a mirror.
Make sure it’s a really decent photo
Let’s be honest, you don’t need to be a professional photographer to take a good photo with your smartphone, but a lot of people on Instagram demonstrate that they have zero understanding of what makes a photo aesthetically pleasing. You can avoid falling into this camp by doing some basic tasks like finding the right lighting and angles. Feel free to do multiple takes as you want to get it right.
General tip: Natural light from your windows is usually good for decent smartphone photography. Low light bulbs are usually better than overhead lighting.
Experiment as much as you like
Even if your goal may be to get the attention of someone you like, the essence of the thirst trap is to have fun, and the thirst trap thrives in a relaxed environment. To this end, have fun and take all kinds of photos. As said in this year’s fashion photographer Henry Wu for the magazine Men’s Health :
Change it a little with each shot: smile and don’t smile, be sensual or distraught. Also consider a few shots in which you are looking away from the camera – looking up or down, close your eyes, and breathe through your mouth.
This may not be a reliable guide to corraling an army of horny aunts like Tyler Perry, but you probably don’t want it anyway. Hopefully, however, this gives you enough know-how to successfully set thirst traps.