Successful Relationships Don’t Have to Last Forever.
As a society, we tend to view separation and divorce as a failure. But the end of the relationship does not mean that they were in some sense unsuccessful. Sometimes an affair is perfect for both parties, sometimes a long marriage is the only chance for a fresh start, and every relationship teaches you something you didn’t know before.
There is no doubt that breaking up is difficult and often painful, but it can definitely be for the best – for the best for you and for the better for others.According to the philosophical YouTube channel School of Life (video below), there is a collective assumption that for love to be real or sincere, it must be eternal. “True love”, as they say, is endless, eternal love. And any relationship that ends before someone dies is a failure and should be viewed as an emotional disaster, right? Wrong. When it comes to love, there is no way to pass or fail, there is only a beginning and an end. It’s like saying that someone has failed in their career because they decided it’s better to leave a particular job to see if there’s a better place for another job.
We champion this concept of a lifelong love story, making it the ultimate goal, but many of us are in a rush to achieve it. We don’t give ourselves the freedom to figure out what really makes us feel happy – partly because we know the compromise is necessary, but also because we don’t really know what we want from our partner (or if we want one at all). .). This is what short relationships will teach you. You come together, you learn something, and it either continues because it’s right, or it ends because it’s not. But each ending gives you the knowledge to help you find a better and stronger start in the future.
In fact, if you go to everyone you’ve ever been with in your head, you could probably think of at least one important thing that you realized while you were with each of them. You may have learned that you need someone more affectionate and attentive to the little things. You may have realized that you are attracted to ambition, not apathetic stability. Or maybe you just come to terms with the fact that you are a neat person who cannot be sloppy.
If you can get away with one of these tiny epiphanies every time something doesn’t work out, that’s a success! It may seem like it’s not immediately due to your emotions and social pressure, but it is, so don’t despair. After all, you can start a relationship that doesn’t end – it happens all the time – but until then, you can just find out something about yourself and what you want from your partner.