Rules for Posting Profile Photos on the Internet
Some people have problems that require the delicate advice of a qualified professional. Others just need a random guy on the internet to kick them in the teeth (i.e. honestly). I am the last one. Welcome back to Tough Love .
This week we have a woman who is concerned about not being candid enough with her dating profile pictures.
Note: I am by no means a therapist or medical professional. People ask for my advice, and I give them. End of transaction. If you have any problems, please submit a formal complaint here . Now that this doesn’t get in the way, let’s continue.
Hi, Patrick,
I have a question for you about online dating. To be honest, I am a very curvy chick who is extremely photogenic. I tend to get messages from guys who seem great, but I can’t believe they’ll really be interested in me if we meet in person. I usually ignore these messages … although it sucks because I really think a lot of them are my type. I just would not want to be embarrassed and waste our time if we meet in person, and I am not what they expected.
Not sure how to handle this situation. And yes, I have a full-length photo in my profile, but I used a flattering one (sorry I won’t use ugly photos, that’s just stupid), and yes, I am checking my figure or prefer not to talk about body type. Any thoughts? Thanks!
Curvy girl
Hello curvy girl :
Everyone uses photos that help them look their best on the Internet. It’s completely foolish not to. If you have a full-length photo and you mention on your profile that you have a curvy shape, you are not doing anything dishonest or incomprehensible. For the future: Here are some things to avoid when it comes to dating profile pictures:
- Don’t take just one photo.
- Don’t only show photos of your face (you need at least one full body photo).
- If possible, do not use photographs older than three years. Definitely do not use photographs older than five years.
- Don’t put a photo in them without you (you will be surprised).
- Do not cover your face in every photo (sunglasses, hands, coffee, etc.).
- Don’t post group photos unless you can clearly identify who you are.
As far as I know, you don’t do any of this, Curvy Gal, so you’re okay. Those who write you messages are probably in love with you! A lot of guys like curvy girls, so be sure of yourself.
You will never know what will happen until you suppress your fear and take the risk and give someone a chance, Seductive. This is how online dating works! There is no certainty and there is no risk-free reward. Being discreet, discreet and guided by reasonable expectations is all well and good, but at some point you just have to give it a try. Pick a guy, two or three and see where things go.
That’s all for this week, but I still have a lot of frank and honest advice. Tell me what is bothering you? Maybe I can help. I probably won’t make you feel warm and foggy inside, but sometimes you need tough love. Ask a question in the comments below or email me at the address you see at the bottom of the page ( please include “TIP” in the subject line ). Or tweet me #ToughLove ! Also, DO NOT E-MAIL ME IF YOU DO NOT WANT YOUR INQUIRY FUNCTIONAL AND PLEASE KEEP IT SHORT . I don’t have time to answer everyone for fun. “Until next time, figure it out yourself.