How to Find True Love With Sharon Salzberg
As part of The Upgrade this week, we spoke with author and meditation instructor Sharon Salzberg.
Sharon Salzberg is one of those who brought Buddhist meditation and mindfulness practice to the West and mainstream culture. She co-founded the Insight Meditation Society in Barre, Massachusetts and is the author of nine books, including the New York Times bestseller True Happiness , her seminal work Loving Kindness, and her new book, due out tomorrow, True Love. : The Art of Conscious Communication . Sharon joined us in the studio to talk about her new book, meditation, love, shame, grief and compassion.
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Discussion this week
During the episode, we covered a huge area, including:
- Why the meaning of the word “love” has deteriorated
- How love is power, not feeling
- Difference between mindfulness meditation and loving-kindness meditation
- Difficulty “returning to love”
- Why shame is an ineffective motivator
- Where the effects of meditation actually show (hint: not while meditating)
- The connection between the stories we tell ourselves and our experiences of love
- Why is it so hard for us to welcome our own emotions
- How Loving-Kindness Practice Helps Dissolve Our Feelings of Self and Other
- How can we (and why should we) have compassion for the people in our lives who have wronged us?
Additional Content: 3-Minute Meditation with Sharon Salzberg
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