Why People Don’t Always Need to Be Encouraged

When a friend is upset, it’s natural to try to cheer him up. However, that may not be what they need the most. As the School of Life explains, “cheering” on a friend is not the best way to empathize with him.

Rather than rejecting a friend’s sadness, the video invites you to share their melancholy so you can better understand where they came from and truly help them. They explain:

Sadness is not always a disorder that needs to be cured, and yet the dominant tone of many friendships is still cheerful, or more fragile cousin, cheerful : a good mood that abhors for nothing else.

It is a false assumption that the best way to please others should always be to impose a bright mood, when in fact, acknowledging despair is a key tool in the process of properly reimagining a friendship.

While the video does not discuss grief, we said earlier that there is no right or wrong way to help someone grieve , and this advice applies here as well. It can be difficult to figure out how to help a friend who is going through a difficult time, and we all do our best. However, the video is indeed a compelling argument for experiencing that sadness with them, rather than trying to hide it under the rug and cheer them up. Check it out above or from the link below.

Have fun together | School of Life


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