Seeing the Past of the Annoying Flaws of Others With a Change in Perspective
We all have friends or relatives who have flaws that annoy us. Maybe they are constantly late, or talk too much , or they don’t take bad news well. Here’s another way to look at the flaws of your friends and family when you’re frustrated.
As explained in this video from the School of Life YouTube channel , the flaws in friends and family can over time dominate your view of them and make you wonder why they are the way they are. Why can’t they explain things more effectively? Why can’t they come on time? Why can’t they handle bad news better? This way of thinking is a slippery slope, but you can change it. Weak strength theory suggests that people’s shortcomings are just the flip side of their merits or positive qualities. The flaws you focus on are shadow attributes of other things that you probably like about them. Your friend may be chatting about something, but that’s because he is passionate and energetic. Your family member may always be late, but that’s because he loses track of time by working hard. So the next time someone’s shortcomings annoy you, try to think about the positive traits that might cast that shadow.
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