How to Get a Divorce From Jacqueline Newman Divorce Lawyer
January is unofficially ” Divorce Month ” in the legal world, and to celebrate this less-than-joyful event, we bring you an episode that destroys the complex world of divorce. Jacqueline Newman, a New York-based matrimonial attorney and author of New Divorce Rules: Twelve Secrets to Protecting Your Wealth, Health, and Happiness , joined us to help us understand the details of the law . “As we found out in our interview, divorce is a fascinating topic, even if you don’t plan on getting a divorce anytime soon.
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Highlights from this week’s series
From an interview with Jacqueline Newman
On changing our attitude towards divorce proceedings:
I consider myself to be somewhat of a divorce strategist because actually one of the things I do in the initial consultation and in my entire view of people is to really look at the strategy. Because while the law plays a role, I think it plays a much smaller role in divorce. I think it’s really more of a psychological chess. And, as you know, the goal is for you to get out of marriage in the healthiest and most respectful way possible and hopefully maintain a relationship with your spouse, because if children are involved, you will be co-parents. with this person for the rest of your life.
On the importance of marriage agreements:
I think most people don’t like marriage because they say it’s unromantic, that you are planning a divorce and all that. And I fully understand that. You know, one of the things that I think can be very positive about a prenuptial agreement is that it first gets rid of, as much as possible, some of the insecurities when people get married. I think it can also really help people in marriage if done right, for a variety of reasons. One particular being is that he can dictate what should happen, you know, so everyone has common sense going into marriage as to what can happen after a divorce. I think it can be very comforting for people, especially when you have such income differences.
From an interview with James J. Sexton
We’ve also included an excerpt from our 2018 interview with divorce attorney James J. Sexton on how to keep your marriage from falling apart. Here’s James on the questions to ask people before deciding to get married:
I think one of the first things people should talk about very frankly is how they are going to talk in marriage. So it’s like talking about talking. I think this is incredibly important. I think you need to talk, listen, what are we going to do when one of us is feeling something? If some of us are bored, if some of us are upset, if some of us feel that sex is not where it should be. If one of us feels that we do not spend enough time together. If any of us have some strange resentment that we harbor. How long will we leave this place before we talk about it?
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