Everything You Need to Know to Get Awesome Blowjob
Oral sex is not very popular in the media, especially in porn. There is a lot of face fucking, forced gagging and ejaculation, but in real life a blow job can be an incredibly fun experience for the giver. Here’s how to get a great blowjob and enjoy it at the same time.
Make yourself comfortable
On average, men take three to five minutes to orgasm, so you usually don’t have to worry about finding a position that’s comfortable for a long time. However, you want to find a position that suits you. It is usually easiest to get on your knees (place a blanket or pillow under them if you are on a hard surface) between their legs. He can sit on the edge of a bed or sofa (he can lie down if he wants to), or stand. Being able to watch is an extremely important part of the process, so it’s nice to give them a good overview. You can even sit in front of the mirror if you really want to act out the voyeur aspect so both of you can watch.
Get it right
You can warm up a little by rubbing his penis with your hand over your underwear, but try to get started relatively quickly. Most of the men I have spoken to do not like excessive teasing, and it may even cause some discomfort or tickling. If you’re going to tease, try slipping your tongue or finger under the waistband of their underwear before taking them off, or hold his cock in your hand while asking what they want you to do with it.
If he’s not completely solid right after you take off his clothes, take advantage of the situation by taking his entire penis in your mouth and rolling your tongue around him until he gets bigger. This may be the only time you can get a full meal in your mouth, so have fun. If he’s already erect, start at the base of the penis and do several long, slow licks from base to tip. Keep your tongue wide and flat.
Find your rhythm in your basic movement
Once you’re ready to get down to business, you’ll want their cock to be nice and wet and to work out some good basic technique. Swipe your mouth up and down your penis several times, pressing your tongue against the bottom of your penis. You should try to fit snugly against your mouth, avoiding contact with your teeth. Try to collect as much saliva as possible and slowly let it fall out of your mouth as you pass through their penis. Don’t worry about getting too careless at this stage; the wetter the better.
After you’ve lubricated them, use your hand and mouth together. Most people’s mouths are not big enough to accommodate a medium sized penis, so a hand is needed to cover. Use it to stimulate most of the shaft and mouth to stimulate the head. The trunk is usually the least sensitive part of the penis, so you may be applying more pressure than you think. The glans of the penis is much better suited to stimulation, so your warm, wet mouth will be happy to welcome you. Grasp the base of his penis tightly with your dominant hand, as if you were shaking his hand tightly. Lower your lips to meet your hand. Imagine that your mouth and your fist are glued together, and move up and down their penis for a minute or two. This will be your standard move, which you can return to at any time.
Draw balls
The testicles are often criminally ignored during oral administration. Once you have mastered your basic technique, start paying attention to the balls. You can do this with your hand or your mouth.
First, take the entire scrotum in your non-dominant hand. The testicles are sensitive, so you need to find a good balance between a strong enough grip (too light will tickle) and not too rough. Roll the balls in your hand while continuing to suck. Several soft jerks for the whole bag. Then try focusing your mouth on their eggs. Keep your hand on his penis, licking everything around the testicles with your wide, flat tongue. Try to put each ball in your mouth for a minute. You can also try licking between the eggs, going from the back of the scrotum to the front.
Explore other techniques
Once you’ve mastered your basic move, it’s time to shake things up a bit. Most men love variety during blowjobs, but just like cunnilingus , everyone likes different things. Use this research time to try to figure out what he likes best. Try two different techniques and ask them, “What do you like best? This? Or is that? “Or pay attention to the groans or the way your partner’s body moves to figure out what is working.
Here are a few things to try:
- Try sliding your tongue along the bottom of your penis as you do the basic up and down maneuver.
- Take some time for the frenum, that is, the seam on the underside of the penis. For many, this is the most sensitive area. Sharpen your tongue and lick it up and down or side to side.
- Try sucking directly on the bridle.
- Hold the base of the penis in your hand by moving your lips back and forth along the ridge between the glans and the shaft. You only need to move an inch.
- Take a basic stroke with your hand and mouth, but rotate your wrist back and forth as you move up and down.
- Gently pat your tongue with your penis. This is a good trick if you need to break your jaw a bit.
- For a longer break, you can rub your partner’s cock over your lips, face, or chest (if you have one).
- Alternate using your mouth and hand.
You’ll want to try a few different things, but you don’t have to obsessively do 50 techniques in one sitting. Take your time exploring.
Go to the asshole
It’s sad enough that the balls are so overlooked, but what really brings tears to my eyes is all those poor abandoned buttocks there. Gays usually understand asshole magic, but heterosexual men are often more squeamish; the anus is still a taboo in our society, but it is high time to overcome it. Your asshole is doing well, folks.
However, I recommend getting explicit permission from your partner, rather than just shooting them in the ass. If your partner is a little shy or insecure, try stimulating the perineum, which is the strip of skin between the eggs and the anus (also known as a tint or villus). This is not an asshole in and of itself, so your partner may be more comfortable when stimulated. The perineum usually responds best to strong pressure, so try pushing it down with one joint. You can try kneading the skin with a joint or simply applying pressure.
If your partner is in the mood for anal play, you will need some lubricant . I think silicone grease is best for this. Apply a smear to your index finger and slowly slide your finger up and down your partner’s fissure. Depending on how much hair there is in the back, it might take a few tries to actually find the asshole, but once you find one, you can simply press your fingertip against the hole. If your partner is pressing their hips against your hand, try slowly inserting your finger. You don’t have to go that far; even an inch or two works. Gently slide your finger in and out.
If you have it, you can go for the gold standard of great blowjobs – a finger in the anus, the remaining fingers of that hand wrapping around the balls, the other hand on the cock, and the cock in the mouth. Expect a cargo explosion in no time. Seriously, anal play can really speed things up.
Decide what comes after
Ah, the age-old swallow-or-spit controversy. One of my main traits as a sex therapist is that we all have to make our own decisions about what feels right for our sex life. If you are really uncomfortable swallowing, keep a box of tissues close at hand and gently spit in them when you’re done. If your partner is acting dirty, you can show it by letting the cum out of his mouth and onto him.
I would also invite spitters to consider the Golden Rule. How would you feel watching your partner jump right after you finish and try to get rid of the juice as quickly as possible? It would be difficult not to be ashamed of your genitals, and that’s enough for all of us, isn’t it? Genital fluids don’t have to taste incredible, but all we’re talking about is a quick sip of a few teaspoons. In addition, it can quickly turn into a plucked taste.
Enthusiasm is king
If there is one tip you must get away from this entire article with, then that enthusiasm is of the best quality in an incredible blowjob. There is nothing better than knowing that your partner genuinely enjoys holding your cock in their mouth.
One of the most effective ways to show enthusiasm is to start giving a blow job. Surprise them when he walks through the door or wakes up in the morning. If you’re sitting down watching another Netflix marathon, tell them, “You know, I’d rather have your cock in my mouth now.” When you dine out, whisper, “Can we get out of here, please?” I need to wrap my lips around your cock as soon as possible. Maintain this enthusiasm when you do the blow job. Moan loudly and energetically. Look them in the eye and smile. Take their penis out of their mouth and rub them all over their body. Keep telling them how hot you are when you please them.
You’ll know when you’ve really taken it to the next level in your blowjob technique, when you’re really enjoying it. In fact, what could be better than the realization that you are in complete control of the process of delivering exquisite pleasure to someone else?
This story was originally published in July 2015 and updated on February 11, 2021 to follow the Lifehacker style guidelines.