What Little Things Have Made a Big Difference in Your Sex Life?
I’m sure you’re great in bed. I’m sure you are a god! But since you’ve clicked on this article, you’re probably at least open to the idea that there might be room for improvement in your sex life.
Sex should be enjoyable. While this is obvious in theory, it can be more difficult to achieve in practice. We all have different sexual issues and blind spots that can prevent our bedroom work from reaching its full potential.
As a child, reading Cosmo’s sex advice, I was sure I would disappoint my future bedroom partners if I didn’t do what I now know is a wild feat of flexibility. At the very least, I was sure that good sex required ingenuity with everything that could be found in the refrigerator. After all, even the most casual Cosmo reader knows about the donut technique . And every student knows about grapefruit. So while videos like this are mostly just for laughs, there is a very real fear behind the laughs: what does it take to have really good sex? Will I ever be able to satisfy a man without emptying the pantry? (WARNING: Do not play this video at full volume, play it at work, or play it while eating your morning grapefruit.)
Movies and magazines have unrealistic expectations about what it takes to have a thriving sex life. In fact, it’s the little things that make a big difference. As shown in this Reddit thread , some of the best sex advice comes down to relaxation, confidence, and playfulness. It’s not all fifty shades of stress.
Now I turn to you, my mundane Lifehacker readers, to ask: what little things have made your sex life so much better?
Did Kegel do it? Learn to talk dirty without feeling embarrassed ? What do you know about slowing down, speeding up, and stretching for hip mobility? Maybe there is a special toy that you think everyone should know about, or you know the power of a well-placed pillow. Comment below what little tips and tricks have been able to improve your sex life. I will then collect them to share with the rest of the world next week.