How to Buy With Confidence the Lingerie Your Girl Wants to Wear
So, you want to buy your girlfriend lingerie, but you don’t want to be that nasty guy who checks out thongs at Victoria’s Secret. Buying lingerie can seem intimidating, but it doesn’t have to. Plus, the cost to see your lady in that little room you bought is well worth it. Here’s how to do it right.
Ease in this
If you are not sure how risky it is to go, be wrong if you are too conservative, especially with your first few purchases. It’s okay to buy something that you think will be a little outside of her comfort zone, but don’t push her too far! You want it to be fun for both of you.
There are many types of lingerie, so we advise you to keep an eye on the purchases of your loved ones. If all she’s ever worn is cotton shorts, she may not respond very well to cut-out lace panties. If she loves cut-out panties, you probably have a much wider selection of options.
If you can’t understand her style, focus on what you like.
Almost all women feel uncomfortable with some aspects of their bodies (thanks to mainstream media and Photoshop!), And some women are embarrassed by the frankness of their underwear. You probably have a much higher opinion of your lady’s body than she does.
For these reasons, I recommend focusing your search on the subjects in which you want to see her. You might drive yourself crazy trying to figure out her style, but I think you better take the time to find items that you think will look hot to her. Love her legs? Try wearing knee-highs with a seam at the back. Love her ass? Try wearing short underwear that reveals a lot of your cheeks. When you give her a gift, tell her why you chose that particular item. If she hears you say, “I thought this underwear would look perfect on your perky little ass,” she probably won’t give a damn if you didn’t quite fit her personal style.
… but avoid her insecurities
This is where things get a little tricky. She may be very shy about the parts of her body that you like the most. If she truly despises a part of her body, she is unlikely to want to brag about it, and your purchase can make her feel pressured or upset.
If you suspect this might be the case, consider first: try to compliment her on this part of the body and see how she takes it. Many women do not know how to compliment, but they are a little embarrassed or giggle: “Stop staring at me like that!” probably okay. On the other hand, if she says something like, “Are you crazy? My breasts are so tiny. I’ve always hated them. ”Perhaps you should avoid underwear that accentuates this part of her body.
Consider warning her – and some options
If your significant other is particularly shy or conservative, you can ask ahead of time if she will be comfortable when you receive her naughty underwear. Tell her, “I would like to buy you something that I think will look incredibly sexy on you. Would you agree with that? ” Sure, you’ll ruin the surprise, but that’s probably okay, especially the first time around. Communication always wins .
Then, if you’re really nervous about making the right decision, send her ten options and ask which ones she likes. Choose your favorite one from those that received her approval. You will still have an element of surprise, but you don’t have to worry about her immediately returning whatever you buy.
Alternatively, trick her into giving you feedback by sending her some links and saying something like, “Dave is asking my advice on how to pick something for his girlfriend. You know that I know nothing about this; What do you think?”
Find her size
This may seem like an obvious step, but I’m sure lingerie sellers can tell a lot of stories that point to the opposite. The first rule of giving underwear is: don’t buy anything if you are not sure about its size! Buy something too big and she might be offended. If you get too small, she may become embarrassed (or get stuck in the clothes themselves). She couldn’t wear it anyway. Do your homework first!
When she’s not at home (or when you’re doing laundry), look at the tags on her bras, underwear, shirts, and dresses. Sizes can vary by brand and style, so look at a few pieces of clothing in each category and take note of each size you come across. Write them down so you don’t forget.
When you shop, ask sellers or online support representatives which products you are looking at are usually large or small. Use the size range you have to make the best guess . Once you have items in hand, you can compare them to the ones she already has to make sure they look right.
If you’re ready to give up the surprise, one great way to get around this step is to ask her to take a two-minute aptitude test at True & Co. The company claims to have developed an algorithm for determining the perfect fit for a bra. When she finishes the test, you will see a custom “shop” that lists the bras that best fit her body. You can surprise her with your choice and she can take advantage of True & Co’s excellent return policy if you were wrong.
If you are a woman buying lingerie for your girlfriend, it will be easier and more intuitive to determine her size. Victory!
Shop online
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However, keep in mind that polite, respectful men are more than welcome in lingerie stores. Lingerie sellers have had a lot more inconveniences than you in trying to describe what you are looking for and are more than happy to help you find something special.
Ladies who sleep with ladies is another area where you find it easier!
Give a gift at the right time
Some occasions are better suited for lingerie gifts than others. I actually think this is the perfect “just because” gift. Surprise lingerie can be the shake that most people need in their sexual life.
Conversely, it can be a little silly for Valentine’s Day or anniversary if you’re not your average Casanova. And while you know your lady best, I would advise against giving away underwear after a fight or as an apology (because let’s face it, that’s a gift for you too)!
On a more serious note, it’s also best to avoid underwear if your girlfriend is struggling with serious body image issues, an eating disorder, or health problems or abilities that could make her physically unable to put on her new gifts. Talk to her first.
Your best bets
Still lost? Here are some solid options:
- A matching bra and panty set like this duo from Huit is a classic combination.
- Balconette bras, such as the Spectacular Chantelle Intimates, tend to look great on breasts of all sizes and shapes.
- If she’s insecure about her body or is more conservative, a chemise and short set like this one from ASOS or a baby doll like this number from Torrid will be sexy without being too exposed. Use her shirt size and baby doll dress size. Black is generally the most flattering color.
- A smaller gift, such as a pair of underwear ( check out this cheeky pair from Valentine by Jonas + Brown ) or knee-highs ( Hips & Curves carries some classic styles ) will be a great way to ease your shyness in the wonderful world of lingerie. …
Get creative and look beyond Victoria’s Secret! You will receive bonus points for the extra effort spent finding something unique. If your girlfriend has a girly style, check out Honeydew Intimates’ line of flirty and colorful lingerie. If she likes simpler things, Eberjey is a great choice. If she likes indie designers, For Love And Lemons has tons of unique options. If you want to show off, Stella McCartney is a classic. If you’re on a tight budget, Etsy is a surprisingly great resource for interesting and affordable lingerie. Good luck!
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