A Beginner’s Guide to Masturbating With a Vibrator
There are many fear-stirring vibrators, mostly from idiots who are threatened with sexual empowerment for women. Worried that you might be addicted to a vibrator? Or that your male partners will be intimidated by your use of a vibrator? Let’s get down to BS and talk about how to make your vibrator a healthy part of your masturbatory life.
What to look for with your first vibrator
If you’ve never used a vibrator before, a treat awaits you. Vibrators create much more intense stimulation than fingers, tongues, or penises. If you’ve never had an orgasm before, you may find it easier to experience your first orgasm with a vibrator. If you can regularly orgasm in other ways, you may find that your orgasms are much more intense when they come from a vibrator. There are women who just aren’t big fans of vibrators (there’s nothing wrong with that), but most women love the feeling.
My first recommendation when buying your first vibrator is to invest. You might be tempted to buy something cheap if you’ve never used sex toys before, but I really think you’d be better off saving your pennies to buy a high quality product. More money can usually buy a smarter design, a more powerful and durable motor, and safe materials for the body . You will not regret it.
My favorite vibrator for newbies to orgasm is the Minna Life Limon . I like it because it is simple and intuitive to use, fits well in the hand and is impressive despite looking cute. I’m also a big fan of the CRAVE Duet ‘s dual design. It might sound a little intimidating to a toy the first time around, but many women will love the clitoral tingling sensation it creates. Both LELO Lily and JeJoue Mimi are pretty simple and straightforward, but still of high quality. I suggest reading reviews online to find out more about your potential purchase. (By the way, A Roll In The Hay and Oh Joy Sex Toy are two of my favorite reviewers.)
How to use it for the first time
If this is your first time using a vibrator, take some time to warm up and get excited about the experience . It will be fun! Carefully stroke your entire body and spend some time rubbing your labia and clitoris with your fingers. In short: start your own engine before starting a battery powered engine.
I suggest using your vibrator along with some lubricant to help your toy glide gently over your clitoris rather than yanking. If you have a silicone toy, avoid using silicone lubricants, which can ruin your new purchase. I recommend Toy Love by Wicked . It is a water-based lubricant (safe for silicone toys!) And has the same wonderful texture as silicone lubricant.
It’s time to grab your vibrator! Turn it on at minimum power and gently touch it to the surface of the clitoris. For some women, this is unlikely to seem like something special. To others, it may seem so strong that you will jump out of bed. Clitoris varies greatly in sensitivity, so it is best to start with very soft ones. If even the lowest setting is too much for you, try pressing the vibrator against your labia so that it does not directly touch your clitoris. Either place a towel or blanket between you and the toy, or leave your underwear. If you need more intensity, gradually increase the speed setting. (This is why I like Limon so much; you just squeeze harder to increase speed, instead of fiddling with any buttons.) You’re looking for a setting that feels nice and moderate, not like waxing your clitoris … …
Play where you like vibration. Some women enjoy having their clitoris in the spotlight. Others enjoy more indirect contact, such as sneaking up to your clitoris rather than lashing out at it. Imagine that your clitoris is like a delicious pie cut into quarters, and try to touch the vibrator to the edge of each slice. Compare this to the sensation of having a vibrator on your clitoris.
Once you find a suitable speed, try changing the vibration pattern settings on your vibrator (if it has one). Go through all the options and try to find the ones that you like the most. It is unlikely that one particular pattern will impress you more than others, but some women may find that they have rather strong preferences. If you are a little confused about all the options, just stick to a consistent vibration pattern.
It’s good to give yourself time to play around at different speeds and settings, but when you’re ready to orgasm, you’ll want to stick with your favorite settings. With your vibrator on, press it against your clitoris and let it do its job. You may feel yourself writhing a little under the toy; it `s naturally. Let your body react as it wants and wait until you let it go!
Your long-term relationship with a vibrator
Let’s face it, there is no conclusive evidence that you can get hooked on your vibrator. That said, it’s still a good idea to think about how you want vibrators to work in your sex life. Namely, do you want your orgasms to be the result of a vibrator, your own hands, your partner’s efforts, or a combination of the above?
There are some women who would be perfectly happy if each of their orgasms came from a mechanical drive. It’s totally cool; do your thing girl. But if you’ve ever experienced vaginal numbness or tingling, if you feel like you need to keep using higher intensity settings on your vibrator, if you’ve noticed less clitoral sensitivity, or if you feel it’s getting harder and harder to orgasm without a vibrator. try taking a 1-2 week break from the vibrator (this is extremely unlikely, but still possible). Your body may have become accustomed to the vibration, but these effects will disappear after a short break. There is no fear-mongering here!
There will be other women who would like to experience orgasms from various types of stimulation. If so, just be moderate in your use of the vibrator. If you’ve never had an orgasm without a vibrator, try tucking a vibrator onto your bedside table for a while and learn to orgasm in other ways . If you can orgasm without a vibrator, try masturbating half the time with the vibrator and half the time with your hands. All you need is a little moderation!
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