Overcome Excruciating Self-Doubt by Answering These Three Questions
When you are full of self-doubt, any confidence can seem like a pipe dream. By identifying self-doubts and asking yourself these simple questions, you can break out of their suffocating embrace.
It’s perfectly okay to have a little self-doubt, but that shouldn’t stop you from doing what you want to do. For example, you think you’re not smart enough to accomplish something, or you don’t think you’re attractive enough to invite someone. Regardless of your specific doubts, Marnie Battista, CEO of Dating with Dignity , a coaching service, asks you to sort them out with the following three questions:
- Where did I learn this? Did someone say you are not smart? Is it because it was hard for you in one class? Or did you come up with it yourself?
- How true is this? More often than not, your belief is not based on facts, but on assumption. Maybe one small incident makes you think you’re stupid.
- What is the unconscious benefit? What does this self-doubt protect you from? Maybe it’s really just a fear of taking risks and failing.
If you find it difficult to answer, try looking at it from a third person . Once you know the answers to these questions, you can take action and clear your doubts. There will always be some self-doubt, but at least you can handle the worst of it and gain much-needed confidence. You can find out more of Battista’s tips at the link below.
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