A Beginner’s Guide to Playing With the Butt
You’ve got an ass, but (heh) chances are good that you ignore it. Your butt has a mind-boggling amount of pleasure, so it’s time to put aside any negative reactions you may have about anal research. Whether you’re pushing away taboos, nervous of pain, or just don’t understand attraction, we’re here to convince you why pampering your ass is worth it.
This is the first episode in the After Hours series of multi-part anal play. You can see more posts in this series as they come out here .
First, a little basic anatomy.
The main areas you want to know about are the anus , which is the gateway to the pleasure zone, anal canal, and rectum . You have two anal sphincters, one near your opening and one higher up the cavity, that work together to help expel feces. You control the external sphincter, but not the internal one.
Men also have a prostate that is close to the rectum, but not inside it. The prostate can be stimulated through the rectum. Nerve endings run all over the rectum, but most people find the prostate and anus to be the most enjoyable areas.
Visitor readiness
Yes, turd comes out of the anus. This pisses off many people and makes them doubt anal play. But your rectum and anus are much cleaner than you might imagine. The most important thing to know is that feces doesn’t just sit right at the entrance to your anus, eagerly awaiting the moment you sit down on the toilet. If you’re not going to do this anymore before you start anal play, your fingers won’t touch the big poop. In the worst case, a tiny residue (resipoo?) Will be left on your fingers, but that’s nothing that a little soap and hot water won’t take care of.
It’s also easy to clean up before anal play. First, go to the bathroom if you feel like you need to go. Then take a shower and wash your anus with soap and water. There is no need to try to cleanse the inside of the rectum. After that, wash your hands in the shower. And you did. Actually, that’s all. This is what you should do when you shower, so it doesn’t really matter.
If you still don’t feel comfortable skin-to-skin touch, you can wear a latex glove or one of these nifty condoms over your little finger . If you’re really paranoid, you can always try douching up to your ass. This is not necessary for hygiene reasons, but if you feel more comfortable, be sure to do it. The Big Gay Review has a great guide to douching safely . You can also do your first anal experiments in the shower, where it’s easy to cleanse quickly.
Your way alone
Are you ready for some anal action? Your own fingers are the best place to start. You have control over them, they are thinner than most other things you can afford, and they are free.
First, make sure you have grease on hand. Your anus is not self-lubricating like your vagina, so you absolutely need to use a lubricant . Silicone lubricants are generally best for anal action as they are thicker and more durable (they will also last much longer if you are in the shower), but this amazing water-based Jelle Lube from Wicked is specially formulated for anal sex. action too.
Then wash your hands and make sure your nails are short and filed. (You don’t want jagged nails or sharp burrs sticking up your ass.) Do whatever you usually do to cheer up and start masturbating.
When you’re ready, apply a generous amount of lubricant to your finger. As with any part of your body, it takes time and experimentation to find out what your asshole likes best. Try each of the following:
- Place your index finger in your ass. Press it against the hole and push gently.
- In slow circular motions, slide your finger along the edge of the anus.
- Insert one finger up to the first knuckle. It’s only a centimeter or two, so it’s not much.
- Move your finger slowly in and out.
- Once your finger is fully in the anus, try moving it in a circle.
- Experiment by diving deeper or increasing the pushing speed if you like.
Experiment with each of these techniques and try to figure out what you like best. Once you’ve found what you like, keep doing it for as long as you like it.
If the combination of stimulation causes you to orgasm, the rectal muscles will contract and you will feel a pinching sensation with your finger. Your muscles may even push your finger out of your buttocks. Visiting hours are over! Once you’re done, wash your hands with soap and water and rinse off the grease with toilet paper or a quick shower.
Many people get nervous about anal, but it really isn’t that hard to research safely. Trust me, you will be happy when you try it.