Base Your Pride on Your Efforts Rather Than Natural Talent to Avoid Arrogance
The line between pride and arrogance is blurred, but there are several ways to avoid the arrogance trap. When judging your worth, don’t look at innate talent and instead focus on effort.
As author Jessica Tracy writes in her book Proud: Why Deadly Sin Hides the Secret of Human Success , you can control your efforts, and there are good reasons to be proud of your efforts. However, some people have natural benefits that are difficult to quantify. You may not even be aware of your benefits. If you base your pride on how good you are , rather than how much you work , you can quickly fall into the trap of arrogance:
This distinction – between feelings of pride for reasons that are controllable and based on action, as opposed to reasons that are out of control and based on identity – seems to be critical to the psychological distinction between the two prides. True pride is an emotional response to hard-won gains that people know come from their own efforts. Luby pride is an emotional response to successes that are perceived as less effortful and therefore less controllable, events that people think happened simply because of who they are. Unsurprisingly, true pride is associated with a sense of achievement and achievement, while arrogant pride is associated with selfishness and arrogance. If you think you have achieved success through your hard work, you need to feel confident, productive, and successful. And if you think you have succeeded because of who you are, well, then it makes sense that you would be pleased with yourself in a manner that could be described as vanity or complacency.
Of course, this does not mean that you will never be able to acknowledge your talents or the hard work you have done in the past. However, if you’re moving by inertia because you’ve been successful early or were born into a successful family, allow yourself to admit it. Instead, focus on what you can do to improve your work.
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