In Honor of an Irish Farewell
There is no need to be discouraged leaving every meeting you attend. Just go away – it’s okay.
What is an Irish farewell?
“Farewell Irish” or “French way out” – not to be confused with “ghost” – is the act of leaving an event without actually telling everyone that you are leaving. Just go away. Sounds rude? Is not.
To understand Irish farewell, you need to understand why it happened. As Kahir O’Dougherty explains in Irish Central , Irish farewells are the exact opposite of “Irish greetings.” You see, the Irish are known for their extraordinary hospitality. So welcoming, in fact, it can be a little overwhelming. You are offered something to drink, something to eat, and you are constantly taken care of. This kind of hospitality means a very long goodbye, as in the following example :
“Are you leaving us? Oh, you’re leaving us. Would you like a cup of tea? Do you want a cookie? There are leftovers. I have Tupperware and foil, of course we’ll put them in there. Nothing wrong. And custard. We’ll put it in the bag of course. No, we’ll put it in your pocket. Do not say anything. And take this and this and this and this and this and this and this and this and this. And let me hold your coat. Is this your coat? Is this – or this – or this – or this – or this – or is this your coat? Look, it’s raining. Stay until the rain stops. I won’t let you go, but it’s raining … “
So when you think about it, Irish goodbyes are not rude – they are actually quite considerate. You save your master from the hassle of saying goodbye to you for a long time, you do not interrupt people’s conversations with the selfish “Goodbye everyone! Stop what you are doing and look at me! ”And you don’t waste anyone’s time making plans that you never reach. Besides, nobody cares if you leave. The party will continue without you.
How to say goodbye to the Irish
While Irish goodbyes are not inherently rude, you still have to do them right. For example, some scripts are not designed for Irish farewell. They are best used for weekend parties and maybe some work events, but probably not visiting grandma or having dinner with friends. Here’s how to do it:
- Plan ahead if you can : If you know you will be saying goodbye to an Irishman, think about your exit strategy. Do not bring anything with you that you will need to collect before leaving, such as coats, plates, games, etc. And make sure you pay your bill first. Don’t force the bill on anyone.
- Choose an exit : When you’re ready to leave, find a route that doesn’t get in the way or draws attention.
- Tell someone : you don’t have to completely fade out for this to work. It’s okay to tell a close friend that you are leaving so that no one starts worrying about you. The text works too.
- Ninja Disappear : Disappear into the night and head home (or wherever you go).
If all of this still seems too impolite to you, you can always send a thank you letter or text message the next day. Or make your way out and then text when you leave. They will understand, trust me. And if someone sends you “Where is ru?” text, be kind and answer. And it’s all! Farewell to the Irish is as easy as shelling pears. Now if you will excuse me …