Use Find My Friends to Make Your Relationship Less Clingy
At first it sounds like a huge red flag: “ Oh, my husband and I are participating in each other in“ Find My Friends ” ,” the crazy woman says cheerfully to her friends in the bar. I use it all the time. Let’s see where he is now! Well spoiler, the crazy woman is me, and this is one of the least tenacious things I’ve done in my whole damn life.
Tracking your partner’s whereabouts when they’re not with you is like the realm of control freaks and neurotics, with a tinge of paranoia and fear as we go deeper, rejection. But I’m making a counterintuitive suggestion: knowing where your partner is will allow you to relax much more.
My husband and I tell each other about our whereabouts in Find My Friends. I mainly use it to understand its estimated time of arrival, whether it is at home or where we are meeting. If I cook dinner while he is driving home from work, being able to see where he is helps me to schedule meal times (and lets me know if he has already walked past the supermarket). I can also take the dog for a walk so that I can meet him on the way home from the subway – and I will know which way he is going home.
Of course, sometimes I check his whereabouts when he drinks with friends to see if he’s out of the bar, and when he leaves for work, I sometimes look where he is, so I feel a little closer, but for the most part it’s saves us from a flurry of neurotic messages: ” What is your arrival time and have you already left the bar?” and ” What about now?” and ” Are you going home or did you die in a ditch?”
This makes more sense than anything else. If you are worried that your partner is cheating or lying to you, this is not a solution and is probably a bad idea. But for a stable relationship, perhaps when you live together, being able to track your partner in Find My Friends can make it much easier to coordinate your life (and get rid of fears that you will be really very intrusive with text messages).