Why Infidelity Is More Than Just Sex
Nearly everyone has faced infidelity at some point, whether it be deceived by a guilty person, a devastated deceiver, or an unsuspecting (hopefully) third party in someone’s business. (And if none of this ever happened to you, well, it must be good!)
But in a relationship where we put more emotional pressure on each other than ever – and we have a lot of easy choices, from watching porn to just opening your Tinder account just in case – how can we even figure out what it means. cheat? As relationship and sex expert Esther Perel says , “The kiss you can imagine can be as hot as hours of real lovemaking because it touches our imaginations.” In other words, our desire to connect and feel seen has more to do with cheating than actual sex.
In the first of a four-part video series, Perel, author of the upcoming book State of the Art: Rethinking Infidelity , explains a more detailed definition of infidelity that better matches the way we actually live and meet in 2017. Next week, we’ll be sharing more about Perel, why happy people cheat, how to heal after an affair, and modern vocabulary about love. Whether you are happy or not attached, we could all speak a little more in the language of love (or lust).
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Narrated by: Esther Perel
Illustrated by Natalia Ramos.
Animation: Daniel Garcia