Use a Dedicated Wedding As a Way to Invite People Who Won’t Show Up
If you feel obligated to invite a bunch of people to your wedding, secretly hoping that most of them will send their regrets, an appointment wedding is the best option.
As Michelle Singletari of The Washington Post explains, couples have long used wedding as intended as a way of making a guest list:
They don’t really want you to be at their wedding, so they deliberately plot it in some exotic location, knowing that you cannot afford to come.
This particular hack may sound a little evil, but it might turn out to be a win-win for everyone. In the end, family and friends closest to the couple will still find a way to be there, anyone who chooses not to attend can save on travel costs, and the wedding itself may be less expensive overall, depending on the location. and ceremony.
Plus, everyone you invite will probably send a gift anyway, even if (or especially if) they send their regrets.
So should you plan your wedding by appointment so that your guest list is kept small? Depends. If you just want to save money on your wedding, there are ways to do it better, from an off-season wedding to buying flowers at Costco .
Likewise, if you really want a small wedding, please let us know in advance. Most people who are not on the guest list will understand – true! (We’ll also feel at least a little bit relieved that we won’t have to postpone another weekend for another wedding.)
Be careful if you do choose the destination wedding as a way to reject visitors route. People who decline a wedding invitation because it is being held in an inconvenient location may feel relieved; people who refuse because you have chosen a location that is not accessible to guests with disabilities may feel offended.
You also need to make it clear that people might say no – otherwise there will be tons of unwanted guests at your wedding who will probably want to avoid having to spend so much money on their presence. Ceremony.