How to Have the Best Period Sex
It’s that time of the month and you’re in a good mood. What to do? Period sex is still one of those sexual taboos that some of us may shy away from, citing logistics, cramps and confusion. Some may even wonder: Is period sex worth the hassle? Quick answer: yes!
“Generally speaking, the benefits of sex during your period are the same as those of sex at any other time,” says sex expert Angie Rowntree , founder and director of ethical porn site Sssh.com . “ However, some women report that regular sex helps them relieve cramping or feel less pain (because orgasmic contractions help the uterus contract). “Occasional sex also definitely satisfies any cravings for extra intimacy with a partner, so there’s both a physical and emotional component to the benefits.”
There are many good and enjoyable reasons why you should have period sex, and there are a number of ways to enhance the pleasure for you and your partner. Here’s what you need to know if you (or your partner) feel frisky during your period.
Why have sex during your period?
According to sexologist Marla Renee Stewart, MA, sex expert for Lovers magazine, there are several good reasons to have period sex. “First, your menstrual blood can act as a lubricant. If you’re not using a menstrual sponge, blood itself can be a great source of constant lubrication, especially during your heaviest periods,” she explains. “Also, if sex leads to orgasm, the orgasm itself can help relieve pain and cramping caused by menstruation. And although this may be difficult to achieve due to pain, the end result may be worth the temporary pain.”
Because you may be a little more (or a lot more) sensitive during your period, Stewart says many people choose to have period sex for this reason alone.
And, she adds, you still want to take the proper precautions as if you weren’t menstruating. “Yes, you have no chance of getting pregnant, but the vagina is more fragile and susceptible to new bacteria and viruses due to the change in pH balance.”
How can you reduce clutter?
If you and your partner are both interested in period sex, Rowntree says, you both need to recognize that “mess”—that is, period blood—is usually part of the whole experience. “Period blood has a special texture and smell that will be different from your non-menstrual sex, but it’s not something to be stigmatized or ashamed of,” she says. “If your partner feels uncomfortable, respect their background and any boundaries they have. Remember, just because you can do something doesn’t necessarily mean you should . Talk to each other and only proceed if you are both excited and comfortable.”
If you both want to have period sex, she says it’s as simple as using common sense and good hygiene to ensure your bedding is protected or properly cared for if stains occur – such as using a dark-colored towel on the bed or sofa – or skip the sheets and lather up in the shower.
What positions are best for period sex?
When it comes to the best positions for period sex, Stewart says it’s important to try sex positions that soothe your body, “because you’re more sensitive during this time. You don’t want to overexert yourself, especially since there may be an added layer of “stress” added to the sexual experience. So think missionary, spooning, or doggy style.
Rowntree says there aren’t really any magical “period sex positions” that are radically different from non-period sex. Instead, she recommends choosing something you both enjoy. “Again, since menstrual blood can act as a natural lubricant, it doesn’t hurt to use more lube,” she says. “Of course, if your partner is very horny or feeling more physically sensitive, be sure to keep that in mind if you’re engaging in deep penetration (or nipple play, for that matter, since some women experience increased breast sensitivity during their cycle). »
For non-penetrative play, Rountree suggests engaging in oral sex, fingering or mutual masturbation, or feeling free to play with toys. “As always, make sure to keep the lines of communication open during playtime to ensure you both have an enjoyable experience—and that goes for whether she’s on her period or not,” she says.
Is it possible to have oral sex during menstruation?
Yes, says Rowntree, as long as you and your partner have been tested and don’t have any STIs. “Even though menstruation does not involve an open wound, you will still be in direct contact with blood, so it is important to minimize any health risks.”
Stewart adds that you should take the same precautions you would with liquids as if you were/are a splasher, including using barrier methods. She also suggests adding large puppy pads, a waterproof sex blanket , or a large towel to help keep the liquid contained in a confined space.
What if you still feel weird about period sex?
If you’re still feeling a little weird about sex during your period, relax. According to Stewart, this is normal. “[Getting] to the place where you don’t care about your period takes a little practice, as well as some reassurance from a lover who is open and willing to be a part of the experience,” she says. “If you are embarrassed about liquid getting on things, be sure to prepare for this in advance. This means you should stock up on wet wipes and other things that will help you feel better about the spread of the liquid itself.”