How to Tell Your Friends That You Are Back With This Ex They Hate

Relationships are tricky. Sometimes you can get caught up in a romantic attachment that is not completely or completely disconnected; you and your sometimes partner are just in constant flux, setting apart, getting back together, sleeping together, but never making it work.

Your friends probably don’t want to see you in this emotional tug-of-war. They won’t be thrilled when you come back with your ex, whether for the first or fifteenth time you do it. But you still have to tell them.

Don’t lie to your friends

The most important thing you can do is be honest. You should tell your friends as soon as you get back to your ex if it was a toxic relationship in the past, or a good one that you really missed. The reasoning here is simple. First, you must not lie between you and your friends. It’s just bad for the relationship. Two: they’ll find out anyway.

Think about it. Do they have your location on Find My Friends or Snapchat? Do you and your reunited beau go to bars where your friends might spot you? Are you planning to post photos of you and your re-ignited flame when you go on vacation or do some fun things together?

At some point, whether it’s through social media or a real-life meeting, your friends will realize that you’ve returned to an ex they hate. Then they will be angry with you not only for the fact that you took revenge on this person, but also for the fact that you are deceiving him. Nobody wins here.

Of course, if you have a story of getting back with someone and breaking again after simple weeks, you might be embarrassed to tell your friends again that you are reunited. How many times can they listen to the same old story? Well, the best question might be how many times can you relive the same old story.

Do not lie to yourself

Are your friends right? No, really. And they? How often do you get hurt by the person you are dating again? Do you often quarrel?

You cannot lie to your friends, but you also cannot lie to yourself. It’s easy to get stuck in a rut and date someone over and over again because that’s what you’re used to, but try to take a step back and look at the situation objectively. You may find that the reason you are generally nervous about telling your friends is because you know they are right.

Don’t let the inconvenience of the situation separate you from your friends. You really need them, and you will definitely need them even more if and when you and this person separate forever. Remember that they care about your best interests and love you. Any resistance to your reunion is rooted in this.

Do it in a group chat

You might be tempted to wait until a pre-planned party with your friends to tell them in person, but this plan has some drawbacks. First, waiting too long gives them time to figure out what you are doing on their own. Second, you should just be done with it.

Group chat is a great way to solve this problem. In person, they can actually lash out at you, demand that you know what the hell you are thinking, and bombard you with questions. In a group chat, topics move faster. You can also tell your friends one-on-one if you don’t have a close-knit group of friends. Text messaging is still preferred. You become a mature person by speaking to them, but you don’t have to speak to them in person. It’s still up to you, not theirs, and all things considered, the delivery of this news should be pretty random.

Send something like, “I know you’re not the biggest fan, but [Name] and I had a little talk the other day and we’re working on it. It means a lot to me that I can count on your support in this matter, and I promise that I will enter this new situation with my eyes open. I’ll be safe, but I wanted you to know what’s going on! “

Eventually, bring the conversation back to their private life. Don’t let this topic linger on you and your relationship for too long; it’s just inconvenient. Ask the other person, “Hey, by the way, what happened to that date you had last week?”

They will start talking about themselves and you will solve one of your biggest problems when you meet your ex again. Everybody wins.