The Best Way to Connect With Someone You Are a Ghost
So, you disappeared from someone’s life without warning, and now you want to reconnect. Maybe you were busy or not ready for a relationship, or maybe just scared. Be that as it may, you’ve passed it by and want to reach out to give friendship – or more – another chance. Here’s what to try.
Start contact
Going from “ghost” to “zombie,” which is the jargon for someone trying to suddenly resurrect a relationship from the dead , isn’t all that difficult. All you have to do is send them a text or message on social media, and bam, you are a zombie. The stakes in this kind of communication are small – the worst that can happen – you will be ignored – so this is the easiest and least inconvenient method for both parties. But it takes a bit of finesse to do it in such a way as to achieve any kind of success.
Choose your words
You don’t want to just send a message like “Hello” or “What happened? How are you? ”Dating coach Francesca Hauga says, you need to be honest but mature when you try to touch the base. Basically, you need to be very aware of what you have done, be honest about your feelings and apologize if you feel that you handled the situation poorly.
For example, you might say something like, “Hi [person’s name], I know we haven’t spoken for a long time, and I know I dropped the ball, but I never stopped thinking about you. Maybe you will forgive me and we can talk? “
Of course, there is no guarantee that this will work. People who are attacked by ghosts often feel resentful, confused, and a little angry. Plus, they may have moved a long time ago, so there’s a good chance you will get the same cold attitude as you. However, this is the best thing you can do if otherwise you will always be wondering, “What if?” Accept the passage of time, show understanding and respect, and enter without any expectations. You will never know; they can give you a second chance.
This article was originally published in 2017 and was updated on March 10, 2021 to follow the Lifehacker style guidelines.