The Best Parenting Advice You Ever Received
When you become a parent, you get a lot of parenting advice. Some of this is outdated (“Mom, I know you let me sleep in the drawer, but we’ll use the crib”) or even funny (“Enjoy every moment? The grocery row because she wants to have sweet potatoes as a home pet? “).
However, from time to time, you are given really helpful advice. A tip to help you calm down and help you cope with the day-to-day challenges of parenting. We asked the members of the Offspring Facebook group for parenting advice and they responded that way.
Survive and Advance.
“During the newborn period, my husband’s favorite thing was“ Survive and Grow ”. Usually take one day at a time. Don’t worry about things that are out of your control. Feed, change, sleep. This was our mantra for our second. And his favorite advice for other young parents. ” – Elizabeth D.
“You don’t have to love it.”
“It was a great discovery for me. Not all aspects of pregnancy / having a baby or baby are fun – in fact, most of it sucks. I think too often people act out the number and pretend that it is all rainbows and unicorns, when in fact it is a lot of poop, regurgitation and crying. Each stage has its crappy parts. If you allow yourself not to love all of this, it will allow you to be kinder to yourself as a parent. ” —Britt S.
“Your child does not bother you. It’s hard for them. “
“My child has always had great emotions. This phrase helps me to rethink my attitude to the question: “How can I help him?” instead of “Oh my God, he’s driving me crazy.” – Amicate S.
“Of course”.
“When you are exhausted, when you are in the midst of a crisis, say to yourself, ‘This is of course.’ It’s over, so just take a deep breath and relive the moment. ” – Jenny M.
“Pause.”
“Always pause before running to help. It looks very strange on the playground, but it also contributes to the emergence of much bolder and more independent children. ” – Clovis S.
“Take any parenting plan and throw it out the window.”
“I don’t remember who told me this, but now I say to everyone who has their first. Everything will change almost immediately. ” – Eric F.
” Parenting is not as important as we think.”
“I read an article that presented data showing that parenting has at best minimal impact on who your child will become as an adult. I realized that my job is to help my child understand who he is at his core, and to support him so that he becomes the best version of himself. All the little things that made me panic – which diapers or extra classes, cards and standard tests – I now invest as little as possible. Instead, I can focus on the questions: Is Drew the best Drew he can be? Am I helping him become a full grown adult and paving the way for him to grow into the adult Drew he wants to be? “-Julie S.
“The transitions are difficult.”
“I had a guardian who said ‘transitions are difficult’, and this became my mantra for life and education. She said this every time my kids went to bed, but I think about it every day when I finish a meeting or I need to come back from lunch. With my children, it helps me to be more patient when they are upset because it reminds me that every movement is a shock at any age, and my children just don’t know how to express it yet. ” – Robin R.
Give the children your full attention – or not at all.
The advice from this New York Times column (“Give your kids your undivided attention — or never pay attention at all”) by wonderful writer Catherine Newman literally changed my parenting life, and I even included a whole section about it in my next book . Before reading, I often tried desperately to do too many things at once, and I ended up feeling jittery and jittery. After reading this article, I made a concerted effort to do one thing at a time — either with my kids, or ignore them, in fact, and that made parenting a lot easier. —Carla N.
” When you have a baby, you don’t become a ‘mom’ – you add ‘mom’ to your list of titles.”
“The first few weeks I struggled with it, feeling that now all I was was a mom. Don’t get me wrong – I love being a mom to my son. But I also enjoy being a wife, friend, daughter, mentor, entrepreneur, etc. Don’t lose yourself in the journey of motherhood. It’s the same with fathers. ” – Christina R.
“Children are just small people.”
Very often, we impose things on them that we would hate – rush to their calculations, change things without prior notice, asking them to overcome (or, even worse, reduce) their negative feelings – and then act surprised or upset that we we don’t do it ”. I got a great response. I know my little ones are not always rational. But the more I treat them the way I would like to be treated, the more I find that they are suitable for this. ” —Lauren Shertleff Graves