How to Propose a Marriage Without Screwing Up
A wedding proposal deserves a little spectacle. Not the annoying viral video trick, but something that makes your partner feel special. Planning is an act of love. I spoke to January of Engaged by January , a proposal planning service, about what to do and what not to do when you make a proposal. And these are all tips that you can use on your own.
Ask: “What don’t you want?”
January says this is perhaps the most important question you can ask: “It can really take away your pain and suffering.” If you are worried it will mess up the surprise item, make a backup:
Team up with your friends
Ask a friend to bring the issue up in conversation; this is a legitimate topic, so you might even stick to a plausible denial. Your mileage here will be different; by this point I knew my partner’s tastes more than her friends. But if you need a backup, ask for one.
Find the right wedding ring
In January in the ring, many suggest overdoing it. Instead, try to match your partner’s existing jewelry style. See what they wear for the special occasion. Check out their Pinterest. Consider a gemstone other than diamond.
If you are using the family ring – for your part – consider resetting it. If it is from your partner’s side, take it easy and wait until an offer to resize it comes up. Either way, clean and polish it before offering.
If you’d like to pick a ring with your partner at a later date, January highly recommends making a proposal with a placeholder. “Don’t be empty-handed.”
Ask at the weekend
“Don’t ask her in the evening when she should work the next day,” Jan says. “I see it often. She’ll be in pain for a week. Do this when you have time to bask in it later. “
And you should not integrate too much into your workplace, even if you met that way. Don’t mention the job in your proposal or ring engraving. “Work is changing. People are being fired. ” January thinks a work function might be a good place to make a suggestion, but perhaps you should avoid it.
Plan, plan, plan
Depending on your taste, your proposal could be a quiet and intimate event, or it could be more of a surprise party with a special guest. If this does not spoil the intimate atmosphere, January recommends bringing in a photographer to capture the moment.
If you’re humble, you can just schedule a nice dinner afterward, inform the waiters that you will be just after your engagement, and get some special attention and champagne. (But when you ask a question, make sure neither of you is hungry or too drunk; you want to be in a pleasant and unconscious mood.)
If you really want a spectacle, January suggests integrating the proposal into a joint event: “Once I asked a girl and her friends to do a quest on her birthday (she LOVES them) and asked the quest room to make a ring. the end. It was amazing. Another time I found out that a girl was obsessed with a certain group, so I called the group’s management and asked if they could help, and he proposed onstage at a concert she was with her friends at. “
Personally, that would be my nightmare! But that’s just the point. The best offer is the one that seems specific to you and your partner, so you can tell the story for years to friends who secretly value your choice because they envy your love.