How Men Can Orgasm Without Ejaculation
Men have long mourned the idea that women can have multiple orgasms while men cannot. After all, men have to deal with a frustrating refractory period – after orgasm, their penises remain sluggish, no matter how hard they try to induce them into action. Either way, their energy level is depleted and they often just want to sleep.
But in reality, men can have multiple orgasms if they separate their orgasm from the physiological experience of ejaculation. Here’s how to learn to have an orgasm without ejaculating.
What is orgasm without ejaculation?
Orgasm and ejaculation in men often occur at the same time, which leads many men to think that this is the same process. But this is not the case. One can separate the experience of orgasm from the experience of ejaculation.
Learning to separate orgasm from ejaculation takes a lot of effort, determination, time, and practice. This is not something you learn overnight. Some men may not be worth it. You may also find that focusing too much on trying to achieve orgasm in a certain way robs orgasms of pleasure. But fortunately, many of the techniques you need to use to learn how to experience orgasm separately from ejaculation are beneficial in their own right.
Train your PC muscles
Your PC muscles need to be in good shape to help you separate orgasm from ejaculation. The PC muscles are one of the main ways to control orgasm.
If you’ve never trained your PC muscles before, the first step is to find them. The next time you urinate, try to stop urinating before your bladder empties. To do this, you need to engage your PC muscles. It will feel like a vague feeling of “pulling up”.
The basis of the PC exercise is contracting, relaxing, and gentle pressure on these muscles. Make sure you are not straining your abdominal muscles, glutes, or thighs. PC muscles only.
The main routine that I teach is working out short impulses and long holds. For short pulses, you simply squeeze and release over and over in rapid succession. 20 in a row is a good number. For longer holds, you squeeze slowly, hold at the top of the squeeze, and slowly release. You want as much control as possible in squeezing and releasing. Over time, increase the hold time to 10 seconds.
Work on your breathing
Your breathing plays a surprisingly large role in your orgasm. As you approach orgasm (or when you are overwhelmed with anxiety that you are about to cum too quickly), you begin to breathe shallowly and quickly. This breathing can actually push you towards orgasm.
If you want to learn to better control your orgasm, you need to focus on improving your breathing. Most people breathe in and out shallowly. Instead, try to direct your breath downward. Some people call this “abdominal breathing” or “diaphragmatic breathing.” You want to visualize your entire torso expanding and contracting with each breath. You can also try to slow down your breathing. Try to count to seven as you inhale, hold to five, and then count to seven as you exhale.
Increase the duration of masturbation
The next step to developing more control over your orgasms is to increase the amount of time you masturbate. If you’ve ever read one of my articles on male masturbation , you’ve heard me say that you should strive to create in your masturbation the same patterns that you want in your partner sex life. If your masturbation sessions last a maximum of two minutes, it will be difficult for you to last much longer than during partner sex.
Try to masturbate for 20-30 minutes every day or every other day. Don’t watch porn while masturbating. (I wasn’t kidding when I said it was work!) You need to be able to focus on the sensations in your body while masturbating, and porn is often too distracting.
Conquer the edge
The trick to separating orgasm from ejaculation is to use your PC muscles to prevent ejaculation right when you’re on edge. During masturbation, when you feel you are approaching orgasm, stop touching your penis and squeeze your PC muscles hard. Try holding for 10 seconds. Then continue touching yourself. Practice getting closer and closer to the point of no return.
The main thing is to compress the PC right at the moment of inevitable orgasm. This is much more complicated than it sounds. You won’t be able to get it to happen the first time (or even the 10th time), but with repeated practice, you will eventually be able to separate orgasm from ejaculation. Squeezing the PC should stop ejaculation, but allow you to continue to experience waves of orgasmic pleasure. You will not have a refractory period. As you repeat the practice, you may also notice that your orgasms get longer or more intense.