If Your Valentine’s Day Plans Include Sex and Dinner, Do It in That Order.
For many couples, Valentine’s Day plans have a solid pattern: go to a romantic dinner, come home, and have romantic and sexy sex. If you don’t mind the socially prescribed nature of the evening, that sounds good.
But think about it: how does it feel to have sex after a hearty gourmet meal? Probably bad! Maybe you had steak and chocolate cake – must have dessert, today is Valentine’s Day! – or maybe you’ve had a few cocktails or glasses of champagne. After all, this is a holiday and you can splurge on a fancy dinner for the occasion. So you’re full of food, drinks and desserts … not exactly a way to feel flexible and sexy. More like a recipe for snuggling up to bed and going to bed right away.
So if you’re determined to have dinner on Valentine’s Day and have sex – a fake holiday is a good reason for a special evening with your man – follow Dan Savage’s famous advice and have sex first. He is unlikely to be the inventor of this rule, but it has become something of a business card:
Book for the evening a little later and meet your partner in the bedroom first. Let your sex not be weighed down by food, then head to the restaurant, all glowing, and enjoy your meal without worrying about being too full, sleepy, or drunk later. Well fed, sleepy and drunk is a great way to be at the end of the night.