How to Find the G-Spot in a Woman
Like many other aspects of female sexuality, the G-spot is usually – and unfairly – considered mysterious, elusive, and complex. In fact, everything is not so difficult. It is a part of a woman’s body that – for some women – can be a lot of pleasure. End of story. Here’s how to find her G-spot and what to do with it when you do.
What is it
The G-spot is named after the German gynecologist Ernst Grefenberg, who discovered it. (Fun fact: He’s also the inventor of the IUD.) Grafenberg originally investigated urethral stimulation and classified the G-spot as an erogenous zone on the anterior (side under the abdomen) wall of the vaginal canal.
In fact, there is still considerable disagreement in the scientific community as to whether the G-spot actually exists. Some argue that the G-spot is a unique structure and describe it as “spongy beans” that protrude from the vaginal wall. Other researchers argue that there is nothing unique in the area that deserves its own name. Here’s my takeaway – regardless of whether it is a specialized structure, this area still tends to be quite sensitive for many women. This is because it is in close proximity to the sensitive inner fibers of the clitoris.
Ask her if she is interested
Ask your partner if he wants you to touch her G-spot. She may already know if she likes or dislikes the stimulation there. Whatever you do, try not to think too much about the G-spot. Many women have the pressure to have a special G-spot or jet orgasm, so exploring the G-spot in particular can cause feelings of anxiety or scarcity.
Here’s the most important thing to know about the G-spot – as with any part of the body, the feeling of pleasure is subjective. Some women like to stimulate their G-spots. Other women don’t. Having a pleasurable G-spot is not a sign that you are better than other women, just as having a pleasurable patella is not a sign of superiority. Likewise, the lack of G-spot sensitivity says nothing about the woman to whom she belongs. If she’s on board, it can be an interesting place to explore, but don’t push her and wait.
Find it
As noted above, the G-spot is on the front wall of her vagina. This is the side just below her pubic bone. Most people mistakenly think that the G-spot is at the end of the vaginal canal. It’s actually much closer to the entrance than you might think – usually one to three inches in
Easiest to find with your fingers. Lay her on her back. Insert one or two fingers into it, palm up. Make a come here motion with your fingertips against the wall of her vagina. You may feel a small ridge about the size of a nickel or a quarter of a coin. It may appear slightly more spongy than the surrounding tissue. Or, you may not feel anything different from the rest of her vaginal wall. In the latter case, try touching the entire front wall of the vagina and ask her to tell you which area feels most pleasing to her.
Feel it
The G-spot usually responds best to very high pressure. Try placing two fingers directly on the G-spot. Press your fingers firmly against the skin and move them in slow, circular motions, as if you were massaging. You don’t want to move your fingers over your skin; basically you want them to be in contact with the same part of the vaginal wall, but slowly pull on the skin with your fingers. It is as if you were massaging your temples with your fingertips.
If G-spot stimulation alone does not give her much pleasure, you can try combining it with other types of stimulation. Try placing two fingers of one hand on her G-spot and the thumb of the other hand on her clitoris. Or you can try with one hand at the G-spot and the other at or around her anus.
Let her be the boss
For some women, stimulation of the G-spot very quickly creates a feeling of need for a toilet. The G-spot is located fairly close to the bladder, which may explain the connection. G-spot stimulation can also lead to jet orgasm , so this is another possible explanation for sudden sensations of pressure and fullness.
This makes many women nervous about G-spot stimulation, even to the point of asking their partners to stop. If she asks you to stop, it’s important to listen to her requests. In the vast majority of cases, she doesn’t actually pee, but the fear of losing control can be distracting and even intimidating for some women. You can also soothe her by laying down towels or a shower curtain liner, or reassuring her that you won’t mind if she relaxes and lets her body release fluid. You can also try tinkering in the shower to clean up easier and faster.
Invite some toys
If she enjoys G-spot stimulation, you may want to purchase a toy to continue your exploration. The G-spot usually requires a lot of stimulation to the point where your arm may start to feel a little tired or sore. If so, I highly recommend Njoy Pure Wand . It is curved to reach the G-spot with minimal effort. She can also use it herself. I also really like the curved pink stick from Chakrubs for the same reason. Both toys are made of very hard materials (medical grade stainless steel and rose quartz, respectively), which makes it easy to apply strong pressure.