When Should Your Kids Stop Seeing You Naked?
When you are a parent of young children, the question is not whether they will see you naked, and in how much time it will happen one day. My four-year-old daughter has always missed my bathroom as she pleases. If I’m in the closet, she might decide now is a good time to step on a stool and put Annie in a one-girl show. If I’m in the shower, she’ll beg , please, Mom, can you press your ass against the glass door one more time? And then she giggles maniacally every time.
I never really thought about when she should stop seeing me or my husband naked. For me I never think? My mother will still change in front of me and my sister (we are both over thirty), and there is nothing to worry about.
But is it different from the gender of parents and children? For example, should boys see their mothers and girls should see their fathers in awe? Writer Rita Templeton has been hailed by internet commentators as a pervert, child molester and worst mother ever when she wrote an article for Scary Mommy about how she lets her little sons see her naked bodies in all their glory. I liked her philosophy : “I reasoned that my boys, seeing me naked, from a very early age will give them a true picture of the female body: curves, dimples, wobbly parts and all that,” – she wrote. “Not like the airbrush, fine pencil and silicone additive that the media will later talk about.”
According to Avital Norman Natman, a former teacher and editor of The Myth of the Good Mother , the key to solving the problem is comfort – and this applies to parents and children. “Nudity when it’s in your home and is 100% non-sexual doesn’t hurt the child, especially if you’re all on the same page, everyone agrees and everyone is happy about it, ” she told CNN .
In the online communities of parents, many moms and dads write that they have received signals from their child – when the child begins to cover up, so do they. The age at which this occurs varies, usually from four to nine or ten. At this point, the doors begin to close and everyone tries to knock before entering the room.
How does it work in your home? Do you have a policy for placing nudity next to your children?