How Dating Shopping Can Sabotage Your Relationship
It is natural to be jealous of other people’s situations from time to time. However, as this video shows, if you mentally weigh your options while trying to maintain a relationship, you may end up sabotaging it.
The video above, based on a presentation by Duke University psychology and behavioral economics professor Dan Ariely , explains how we can misinterpret relationships when viewed from the outside. We see all the details and flaws of our existing relationship, but we only see the best moments from strangers.
A little jealousy is okay – it can even be helpful, but when you start actively thinking about leaving, you are less likely to invest in your relationship. Arieli uses the analogy of renting an apartment for rent. If you think you have to move tomorrow, would you hang pictures or paint the walls? Of course not, because this is a long-term investment.
There is nothing wrong with maintaining the relationship you want. However, if you constantly step outside the door, you can sabotage your relationship, making it worse than it really is. If you put an effort into your current relationship, or leave, it will likely yield better results than going shopping while you mess around in a relationship you’re not involved in.
Dan Ariely: On Dating and Relationships | White animation