What to Include in a Condolence Note and When to Send It
It’s hard to know what to say when someone you know has lost a loved one , especially if you’re stuck sending a postcard or a note when it’s difficult to convey a tone. Here’s what you can say to comfort you during a tiring time.
Even if you don’t know the person well, such as a colleague or acquaintance, you can still send a condolence note or a postcard to express your concern. Aside from your condolences, there are a few things you can add to make your note personal and meaningful:
- How you can help : Let them know how you can support them during this tragedy , such as avoiding light, warm meals, offering specific skills they may need, or being a reliable listener when they need to talk.
- Favorite memories : Tell a couple of stories about the person who died. Even if it’s just a couple of lines describing the last time you saw them, it’s a reminder of who they were and how they influenced the lives of others.
- What this person meant for you : Tell them how their loved one influenced you and how it continues, even if they left. It is comforting to know that they are not the only ones missing a loved one.
Your friend or family member is already thinking about their lost loved one, so any happy memories or comforting words you share will only help. If you can, keep reaching out to them over time because they will still grieve, listen to them and follow their prompts. If they prefer you to distract them from their thoughts, focus on that instead of fond memories. Remember, the goal is to help and add comfort, not to prove your presence with a card or note.
How to Write a Condolence Note | Joe’s Cup