Change Your Beliefs to Better Cope With Unpleasant Events in Your Life
What you believe in has a lot to do with how you perceive bad events. If you build your life around your job, losing it can hurt you much more than if you believe you can change jobs and still be happy. Changing these beliefs can help you cope with inevitable bad events.
As the advice site Barking Up the Wrong Tree explains, many bad events in our lives are as bad as we imagine them to be. For example, a child may break down and cry over something as simple as a broken toy, but this toy is important to him. Likewise, even adults can feel like their life is over if someone breaks up with them. However, a slight change in perspective can make a huge difference:
You are thrown by someone with whom you are completely in love. Sad? God yes. The end of the world will come.
Okay, same scenario, but then you find out that this person was actually a psychopath who killed his last three partners. Are you sad that you were abandoned? No, you love it.
So, obviously, “being abandoned” is not a factor here. What changed? Nothing but your beliefs.
Obviously, you can’t completely change your outlook every time you drop an ice cream cone (and some events will always be devastating ), but some small changes in your belief system can help you better deal with bad events. For example, accepting that you will be okay if someone breaks up with you, or knowing that failure is necessary and not something you should be afraid of . Sometimes life sucks, but how you think about bad times matters as much as what you do with them.
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