Arguments for Pessimism in New Relationships
Being optimistic about new relationships, we are often disappointed when the other person is human, imperfect and does not correspond to our ideal. For this reason, it can help bring a little pessimism into the picture.
As the video explains, it’s natural to enter into a relationship with high expectations. Whether we realize it or not, we hope that the other person will intuitively understand us and most aspects of our personality and habits. However, such optimism is unrealistic, and problems inevitably begin.
If we can accept a little pessimism without a specific set of expectations, we won’t be disappointed when we realize that the other person isn’t perfect. This is how the School of Life says about it:
So the solution to our worries and worries is in a curious area with the philosophy of pessimism … the idea that it is normal and largely inevitable, that people do not understand each other well as a couple, is extremely important in every person’s mind. complex and confusing place. It is difficult to understand why anyone is acting this way, and, accordingly, from the very beginning one would assume that no partner would have a completely reliable or terribly accurate understanding of us.
It sounds, well, pessimistic. However, this is also real. Most people don’t understand each other right away, and even the closest relationships are not perfect. As the video explains, “The only people we can consider normal are those we don’t know very well yet.”
Of course, some people are just assholes and you shouldn’t be in a relationship with someone who is abusive (and they have a video about it ). However, the chances are that if you have a habit of being overly optimistic when entering a relationship, you may be able to respond well to video. Check it out above or from the link below.
Pessimism for lovers | School of Life (YouTube)