Why We Get Angry With Our Partners More Than Other People in Our Lives
People are complex. Sometimes we do things that don’t make sense, but still feel quite reasonable to us on an emotional level. For example, many of us have a habit of automatically blaming our partner, spouse, or other person for something. This School of Life video explains why.
Most of us have some experience with this. You are frustrated with something, and even if your partner has nothing to do with it, you can tolerate it to him or her. The School of Life explains why this happens:
We are angry with our partners because we give them such an important role in our lives. We believe that a person who understands the obscure parts of us, whose presence solves so many of our problems, also cannot be one who cannot fix our whole life.
As the video explains, this is a primitive habit, suggesting that the other person has more power than they actually have.
Of course, sometimes your partner does make mistakes. And sometimes these mistakes lead to the fact that the relationship becomes completely unhealthy. This is a completely different story and should not be used as an excuse for staying in a bad relationship.
It’s just our tendency to automatically blame our significant other when something goes wrong. And understanding this habit will help you cope better with it. Watch the full video above or follow the link below.
Why we love to blame our partners | School of Life