Why Do We Sabotage Ourselves
Sometimes we set ourselves up for failure, and while we probably don’t even realize we are doing it, there is a reason for that: it’s convenient. This School of Life video explains.
We assume we want happiness, but in reality, we sometimes give it up in exchange for comfort. Unfortunately, we are often comfortable not getting what we want, so accept that fate. The video explains:
While happiness is, of course, what we all basically want, for many of us it is not really what we know … it is not what we are used to expecting. It doesn’t feel like home … Getting what we want can make us feel unbearably risky … The sabotage itself can leave us sad, but at least safe, fortunately in control. It can be helpful to keep the concept of self-sabotage in mind when interpreting strange behavior in ourselves and in others.
In addition, the next time you weigh a decision and think about the attendant risks, you may find it helpful to think about the role of comfort and control. Watch the full video to find out more.
Self-sabotage | School of Life