A Beginner’s Guide to Placing Toys in the Ass
So, you’ve done some fiddling and are now ready to take anal play to the next level. There are many fantastic anal sex toys out there just waiting to take a trip up your ass. Here’s everything you need to know about a foreign object entering the anus.
This is the second part of the After Hours series about anal play, which consists of several parts. You can see more posts in this series as they come out here .
Choosing your first toy
There is a whole world of anal sex toys. Most of them fall into three categories:
- Forks . They are designed to be inserted into the rectum and left in place. You can also move them in and out if you like. This cutie is a fantastic beginner toy. The smaller version costs less than $ 10, so it’s not a problem if you don’t like it.
- Vibrators . Some toys have built-in vibrators for even more stimulation. LELO Billy is $ 129, but it’s a high quality product.
- Beads . Somewhat resembling a pearl necklace, sets of anal beads must be inserted into the rectum and removed slowly. Sometimes the beads are graded in size, so they get larger as you move up the chain. This strand is a $ 12 theft.
- Dildos . They are usually used with harness straps to stimulate the P-in-A intercussion. The small version of this dildo is great for beginners.
Here are a few more important characteristics to look for in an anal toy:
- Made from body-safe materials. Only the highest quality for your delicate purple ass. Look for medical grade silicone or stainless steel.
- Flared base . Your anal sphincters are quite strong and can pull sex toys into your rectum . To save yourself the embarrassment of going to the emergency room (although it would be nice to have an X-ray of the toy in the butt ), make sure your toy has an extended base, which means it’s wider at the bottom of the toy than at the tip. This Tantus Neo is a prime example of a flared base.
- Slim . You can always get bigger later on, but your first toy should be relatively thin.
If you’re new to anal sex toys, I recommend a simple and inexpensive plug like this one (also linked above) or Tantus’s Little Flirt . They are great for using alone as they can be slid in and left in place, or wiggled a little if you’re nimble. If you want to look stylish , these outlets from njoy are incredible. If you are a woman you may like the njoy wand ; It works as both an anal stimulant and a G-spot stimulant, so all is not lost if you don’t enjoy anal action.
Shove it up your ass
If you haven’t already (link), you should examine your anus with your fingers before even examining a toy. Get to know the area a little before you start putting things out there!
Any toys that enter your ass must be thoroughly cleaned before (and after) penetration. Hot water and soap are usually sufficient, but you can also find antibacterial sprays specially formulated for sex toys, such as this one from Wicked . Some toys can also be sterilized by boiling them (or even placing them in the dishwasher ); refer to your toy’s instruction manual for specific instructions (and you know maybe don’t throw your dildo in the dishwasher if you have roommates).
For your first foray into the land of anal sex toys, consider if you want to be the one holding the toy, or if you want your partner to do it. If you are nervous, I would advise you to hold it as you will have more control. Your partner has the advantage of being more agile, but you should definitely discuss with him what you like and what you don’t.
Then find a position that gives you good leverage. The hand that controls the toy should extend further than usual when you masturbate. You can usually sit up in bed with pillows behind your back. If you are with a partner, he may sit between your legs. You want to relax and get aroused before venturing into the backdoor. One of the problems with using anal toys is to relax your muscles enough for penetration, so do whatever you like: stick your fingers in there, masturbate, film your partner, watch porn, fantasize, you know what exercise is.
Make sure you have a reliable lubricant . If you are using a silicone toy, you need a lubricant on a water-based (silicone grease may destroy your silicone toy). If you are using a stainless steel toy, you can use silicone or water-based lubricant . This Wicked Toy Love Lubricant is thick enough for anal sex and is ideal for use with silicone toys as it is water based.
Then the person who owns the toy must select the hand intended for this with the butt. You have to be careful not to get fecal bacteria into the other holes, so use only one hand to touch your anus and keep it away from any other activity. Lubricate your fingers with nickel-sized grease and apply it to your anus. You can push your fingers in a few inches to add some lubricant and get ready to play. Then saturate the toy thoroughly with the lubricant. You want it to be so oiled up that it practically slips out of your hands. Lube is your friend when it comes to anal and you really can’t use too much. For peace of mind, you can place a towel under your bottom to protect the sheets from grease leaks.
Holding the toy in your buttocks, press the tip of the toy to your anus while continuing to masturbate. Just hold it there for a few moments while your body adjusts to the pressure. When you feel ready, gently push the toy about an inch or less and then hold it in that position. If you feel pain or too much resistance, slowly pull the toy out. Hold it against your anus as you continue to masturbate. You can also add a little lubricant if you feel the toy is tugging at your skin or not sliding smoothly. If all systems are working, slowly push the toy deeper, an inch at a time, taking breaks to hold it in place and continue masturbating. As soon as you feel that the toy is fully inserted, try to remove your hands from it. Some toys will stay in place, while others may be bumped a little by your sphincters. If you feel like your butt is pushing the toy out, just hold onto it to keep it in place. If your toy has a flat base, you can sit down a little so that the base contacts your bed and keeps the toy inside. You can hold the toy still and enjoy the fullness it creates. Or try moving it in and out or in a circle.
Consequences
During orgasm, your muscles will contract and try to push the toy out. This is where the towel under you comes in handy! You can let your body do its thing without trying to catch the little plug coming out of your hole. The feeling of the toy coming out of your anus completely can feel a little odd, so just take a deep breath. If it doesn’t come out on its own, gradually loosen it up. You might be tempted to pull it out quickly, but it looks too much like pooping, so take your time.
If you are using a toy with a partner, you may notice that the anus remains open after the toy has been removed. This will be especially noticeable if you used a spring-loaded toy. Don’t worry, your buttock will return to its normal, wrinkled state in just a few minutes. Just imagine he says, “WOW!”
Wrap the toy in a towel or Kleenex tissue and take it to the bathroom to clean and disinfect. Remember to wash your hands with soap and water, especially before touching other parts of your partner’s body or body.
Congratulations, you’ve upgraded your anal adventures!