Simplify Forgiveness by Keeping the Person’s Strength in Mind
Forgiving someone is not always easy, and if you know you need to forgive but find it difficult, this video gives you some mental tricks to help you along the way.
One of my favorite tips in the video is to remember the strength of a person’s weakness. The School of Life puts it this way:
Each will have weaknesses and their strengths. Forgiving people should be all we can do to keep their strengths in view at times when their weaknesses are too obvious.
For example, suppose you have an argument with your friend after she criticizes you for quitting a job you hate. Maybe she says some hurtful things, apologizes for them and regrets it. If you find it difficult to forgive, remember the strength of her weakness: she is a caring friend who wants to help.
We all have strengths that can easily turn into weaknesses. However, this advice may be more applicable in some situations than in others. Not every excusable moment of weakness is positive. In extreme cases, such as abuse, advice is not necessarily applicable. It may be harmful to seek strength to match certain weaknesses.
It’s also worth noting that you can end your relationship with someone and still forgive them for what they’ve done. As PBS writes in this article , “Forgiveness does not mean you are in danger again.”
But this is good advice for forgiving in general, and the video is full of additional advice.
How to forgive | School of Life