Make Your Dates More Enjoyable by Replacing Your “must” With “want”
Finding true love is difficult, but it’s even more difficult when you let other people’s expectations influence your decisions. Avoiding “should” and “want” will help you understand what you really want when it comes to romance.
Life is full of “must”. Every day, everyone thinks, “I have to do this or I have to do that,” but these “shoulds” are often related to what you think other people expect from you. For some things, this may be okay, but not for seeking love. Andrea Syrtash, dating expert and author of He’s Just Not Your Type (And It’s Good): How to Find Love Where You Least Expect It , invites you to change your vocabulary to better understand who you are and what do you really want:
I hate the word “must”. Don’t “shouldn’t” pursue yourself. Often, when we say the word “should”, it is someone else’s “should.” We think about what our parents will think or what our friends or community will think. But in fact, when we drown out those “must voices,” we can actually listen to what we want … replacing “must” with “want” makes us more sincere and happier.
When you feel like you “should” do something or be with someone, it can go against what you know will actually bring you true joy. For example, instead of giving in to other people’s expectations and thinking, “I should be with this person,” do what you want and think, “I want to be with this person,” even if it might take others by surprise. Forget what other people might think, do what makes you happy, and be yourself . Or, as Syrtash put it: “Meet someone you would be with if no one else was watching.” You can find out more at the link below.
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