Eliminate the Clutter by Thinking of Every Property As a Relationship
Most of us have too many things. Only after decluttering do we realize the psychological effect of all our possessions, as if we had thousands of relationships constantly dragging on.
This is the analogy that David Kane offers with Admiration: all you have is the relationship you are in. Cain describes the process of going through all of his possessions to assess whether they are joyful , as advised by author Marie Kondo, and how liberating it is. yourself from things that make you feel guilty or bad:
Our property is more psychological than physical. What it is the thing, much less important than what it does to your mind when you own it. But it’s hard to know what each item does when you feel the effect of a thousand of these relationships at once. This is why you need to check each individual object separately, and why it is generally better to own fewer things.
Probably the most common reason people keep things they don’t use is because they “have value,” meaning they were once worth money. But the real value of things is the experience they create for us. Even things that have monetary value can reduce the quality of our experience in many ways, making us feel guilty, taking up space or keeping us preoccupied with goals that we are not really committed to. And the money is gone anyway. The question is always important: “How does it feel to own this?” and you can get an answer in seconds if you hold it in your hands and ask.
It’s time to put an end to some relationship with things that just take up space and renew our relationship with what we have, which is truly joyful.
All You Have Is Your Relationship | Delight