Identify “unwillingness” to Understand What You Really Find Satisfying
There is no way to know for sure if you will like something or rate something until you do. “Wrong desire” occurs when we pursue what we think we want but ultimately don’t like. However, unwillingness can also provide us with a clue to what we actually find satisfying.
As the Art of Masculinity advice blog explains, desires and sympathies are two different things. What we want is something we predict, we will enjoy. However, what we like is actually satisfying. When you find a moment when they are in conflict, this information can help you make better choices in the future. If you are an intern with a company you wanted to work for but feel you hate it, this may indicate that you may need to find work elsewhere. If the relationship is exhausting and stressful in the early months, it may not improve in the long run. When you find something you “don’t need,” identify it and track it. A great way to do this is to keep a journal:
A diary can help you better understand what you really like, rather than what you think you like. Our memories become more hazy and rosy over time. Whenever you have the urge to visit New York again, check your diary entries for the last time you were there to see how you feel about this visit. You may not have had as good a time as you remember.
You can also check with family and friends who know you to find out what they think you might really like. Sometimes their memory is better than your own. Taste the water to see what you really like. No one promises that you will be 100% happy with everything you ever do, but the sooner you realize that something will make you unhappy in the long run, the better for you.
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