Look for a “pick Point” to End Conflict in Relationships
Someone in a relationship sometimes fights , be it your significant other, children, or parents. We don’t plan it – it just happens. Finding “points of choice” during the discussion will prevent further escalation of the struggle.
As soon as the discussion turns into a fight, think about your next answer. Realize that you don’t need to follow the same patterns as before. Psychology today explains:
Note that each conversation contains several choice points. Like the forks in the road, Choice Points are reminders that you don’t have to agree with the automatic response generated by the chimpanzee brain.
… … Faced with Choice Points, you still have to decide which road to take. You can decide what to do by asking yourself, “What is important to me in this conversation?”
Pay attention to these physical signs of stress : They will tell you that the conversation is headed in the wrong direction and it’s time to rethink your next action. Read the link for more tips on de-escalating arguments.
How to Stop Having Disagreements Ruining Your Day | Psychology today